I won’t write much about this (because more than likely no one cares about my opinion on it) but there was a blog post concerning dating this weekend & how security conferences are not match.com. I agree with the statement about how women are treated poorly when some men get drunk. Some men think they are more suave than they are after a bit of alcohol. If I have ever done this, I apologize to anyone I’ve offended and I hope someone points it out to me someday. What I disagree with though, is that conferences cannot be places that you meet someone you’re interested in. If you’re in the same field, it gives you something to chat about. I saw a number of couples walking around the conference hand-in-hand and seemed quite happy. I completely agree that women should feel safe & accepted in our industry. On the other hand to draw a hard line of basically “don’t date someone you meet at a conference” is, to me, a bit much.
I am pretty awkward when it comes to women. That’s not a revelation to my friends, or uncommon with many men I know in general. Personally I have mostly stayed away from asking anyone in the industry out just on the premise that if it didn’t work out, it could be even more awkward. So to keep myself and my female friends comfortable, my stance is that if a lady is interested in me, she’s going to have to come right out & tell me. I don’t want there to be any miscommunication, so rather than cause an awkward conversation, I’ll stay friends with her & not say anything.
Just my $0.02. YMMV.